I love my husband dearly, and feel blessed to have a great relationship with him. But it takes work, because loving someone doesn't exactly mean you have a healthy relationship. Can I get an amen?
I first saw this challenge on the Vanilla Tulip blog. She also plans to take a picture a day with her spouse. Unbeknownst to Bob, we will do the same :) Won't you join us!!
Assignment: Spend an hour or so going over your nightly "Top 10". No matter how much you think you know about each other, this process is enlightening/shocking/humbling all in one. The way to go about this is to set a time (which could be "after the kids go to bed") and discuss your answers for an hour or so. You can either write your answers down right before you meet or throughout the day. But they have to be written down before the scheduled time.
Day 1- What are your Top 10 favorite characteristics about one another? Why? (wife writes 10 for her husband. And the husband will write 10 for his wife)
Day 2- What are your Top 10 favorite characteristics about yourself? Why? (Wife writes about herself. Husband writes about himself)
Day 3- Where are 10 places you have never been to but would love to go? Why? (again, these are individual lists. You each write your own)
Day 4- What are 10 of your biggest pet peeves? Why? (in general, not necessarily with one another)
Day 5- What are your 10 things you hope your kids learn from you? Why?
Day 6- If you won $100k tomorrow... what 10 things would you buy yourself? Why? (you cannot save it or spend it on anyone else. You MUST spend it all on yourself)
Day 7- What are 10 things that you would like to improve on personally? Why?
Day 8- If you could invite 10 people to dinner, alive or dead, who would they be? Why?
Day 9- What are 10 things that your spouse can do for you, or does for you, that you really value/appreciate?
Day 10- ***Do this one over a date-night dinner*** What 10 things do y'all want to accomplish in the next year? Do this list together and once you are done talking about it and putting the list together, put it in an envelope and store it. Then make a point to open it in a year!